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the hilarity of being a "wrong on purpose"

effective help in times of great need


In the 48 hours after the earthquake in Haiti hit, I watched my Facebook and Twitter newsfeed go wild. People were posting all sorts of personal convictions: they wanted to cry after seeing the pictures, they wanted everyone to text to donate money, they wanted to airlift into the country to help out and adopt Haitian babies and pull people out of the rubble and…. Wait, what? You’re telling me that you 1) have no workable skills (ie you aren’t a doctor, social worker, or something equally useful in this situation), 2) have no training or experience in disaster relief, and 3) want to rescue these poor people from their poor country? Other than the distastefully racist, naïve, and condescending overtones in your charitable endeavor, the plan seems to be utterly fantastic.

Thankfully, a slew of online articles and blog posts have been steadily refuting these ideas with well-thought and concrete reasons for why throwing yourself into Haiti may not be the best idea after all. Below are some of my favorites—really, if people were so intent on going, they should be reading these articles anyways in the fastidious research that they did before they hopped on the plane. That is, if they did any research at all…







"LEARNING LESSONS FROM PAST DISASTERS"

CNN contributor David Frum posted a great summary of the lessons we (should) have learned from past disasters (specifically the 2004 tsunami that hit Indonesia/Sri Lanka), and how we should be approaching the situation in Haiti right now. Some of the most striking points:
Disaster relief is first and foremost a military operation. Nobody else has the reach and the lift. The prevention of looting and rioting, the digging out of survivors, and the airlifting of emergency supplies -- those are jobs for government agencies. If all you ever do for Haiti is pay your taxes -- then you have already done a great deal.

What is needed after a disaster is more help. What often arrives are many helpers. These excess helpers bid up the price of some local services.

So when you do give, concentrate your giving on big organizations with an established presence in the disaster zone. Be suspicious of any group that will first need to build an infrastructure in the area.

And if you are at all tempted to travel yourself to help? Unless you possess unique skills that have been specifically requested by a reputable aid organization -- do everybody a favor, and stay home. The room you'll occupy, the water and electricity you'll consume, are needed by the local people.

Disaster survivors need work, not welfare. The distribution of free food, water, tents, etc. must end rapidly, within at most a few weeks. Otherwise a disaster population ends up as a permanent mendicant upon the international community. For all its horror, a disaster can be a demand-side stimulus to a local economy. Give survivors the means to supply their own wants, and then get out of the way.






"THE MYTHS OF DISASTER RELIEF"

World Vision also posted up a great article about the most common misconceptions surrounding disaster relief, with a focus on how people are responding to the Haitian earthquake. It’s brief and tactful, but very to-the-point.
The five myths that they list:
  1. Collecting blankets, shoes and clothing is a cost-effective way to help.
  2. If I send cash, my help won’t get there.
  3. Volunteers are desperately needed in emergency situations.
  4. Unaccompanied children should be adopted as quickly as possible to get them out of dangerous conditions.
  5. People are helpless in the face of natural disasters

The paragraph that specifically addresses volunteers sums it up quite well:
While hands-on service may feel like a better way to help in a crisis, disaster response is a highly technical and sensitive effort. Professionals with specialized skills and overseas disaster experience should deployed to disaster sites. Volunteers without those skills can do more harm than good, and siphon off critical logistics and translations services. Qualified disaster professionals ensure that help is delivered effectively, safely, and efficiently.

So yes, in fact, your complete lack of training (and no, high school missions trips or spring break community service projects most likely don’t count as training) is in fact detrimental to Haitian relief! In fact, you qualify as a resource sponge, if anything, as you take up whatever’s left of the usable living space, clean water and food supply, and whatever other essentials that could be going to someone… who actually lives in Haiti.







"THE DANGEROUS DESIRE TO ADOPT HAITIAN BABIES"

Finally, the babies. Oh, the babies. It’s normal, even noble, to care for the helpless, particularly those who are as cute as these babies, but the implications to adopting, both for yourself and for the baby, are at least a couple hundred times more complicated than this mere desire to “fend for those who can’t fend for themselves.” Racialicious posted up an article from guest contributor Atlasien, a foster care adoptive parent herself (or himself), which contains tons of startling reality checks, specifically for people who are buying into the “savior” mentality that calls for mass baby-air-lifting from Haiti.
[Comments on adoption blogs] are full of demands that we have to get the kids out now, now, now, before they die, die, die. The practical reality is that after a horrific disaster of the magnitude of the Haiti quake, it’s completely impossible to determine whether any abandoned child is a “true orphan”. It’s a process that is going to take months and even years.

Adoptee bloggers who also study adoption academically — among them Harlow’s Monkey and A Birth Project — are deeply concerned about the parallels to massive child extraction events like Operation Babylift. These were not shining humanitarian moments. Many of the adopted children found out later that they had parents and siblings left behind who wanted them, or even relatives in the United States who were searching for them.

To adopt from Haiti, answer all the above [see her post!] questions, add the effects of malnutrition, add a language barrier, and multiply the child’s trauma by a factor of ten. And subtract a lot of money. Unlike foster care adoptions, which are basically free, you’re going to have to pay legal fees. Maybe even $30,000. And children from foster care will have permanent Medicaid, no matter your income level, but if you adopt internationally, it’s up to you to find a way to pay for all those psychiatrist visits you’ll almost certainly be needing later on.

My religion talks a lot about the impossibility of individual purity and makes the acknowledgment of imperfection absolutely necessary. I think many other belief systems address the same issue in different ways. For example, in Christianity, Jesus Christ represents a pure kind of love, and other kinds of love exist in relation to that standard. The answer is not to stop loving, or to stop trying to understand, but to realize that our love is always endangered by selfishness. If we ever think our love is pure, we need to stop thinking along that track, take a step back and think again. Don’t stop loving, just stop thinking that your love is infallible and all-knowing.

So there it is. It’s not the most fun message, or the most “comforting” one—but donating money rather than time, in the case of disaster relief such as Haiti’s current situation, is perhaps the best way to approach this after all. Just something to think about before you ship yourself there.

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image via ffffound!

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male fob fashion help: a question for readers

I got an email two days ago from one of my favorite filmmakers that read like this:

hey jeannie!

i was browsing through your blog and saw the entry with my drawing! wow! i'm really flattered, that was really awesome of you to include it and i just really wanted to say thank you.

i was also wondering if you knew if there's a site or blog similar to http://www.leblogdebetty.com/ but for guys? and fob style? i'm trying to perfect that korean look, but i know nothing about clothes.

let me knooww! haha cya

gene



My extremely limited response was as follows:
Hi Gene!

Yeah, your drawing was too awesome not to post. =]

And I don't know any particular korean sites, but here are some to try for guy styles:

  • http://www.style-arena.jp/en/street/ (This is Japanese street style, organized by area, and it does a fair amount of male coverage. Very bizarre stuff, but I'd try it just for kicks and giggles!)

  • http://www.thesartorialist.blogspot.com/ (If you're looking for classy, great clothing, the Sartorialist is really famous for European and American street style. He's a male photographer, and does a great job of covering well dressed guys-- but its on the high fashion side, just to warn you)

There aren't many style sites strictly for guys, as far as I know, but these three in particular are much better balanced than most (which tend to only feature girls).

If you want, I can post this as a Q&A on the blog, and see who responds! People love to prove me wrong, and they might just say "HELLO THERE ARE GUY FASHION SITES" haha.


So. Dear readers who anonymously screen my posts through Google Reader and furtive Facebook clicks-- are there any fashion blogs that focus on men, which would fit the bill in any way, shape, or form?

Just to throw it out there!

i've been trying to stay away from things NSFW

...but oh my goodness, have you filtered through your spam recently?! My email has been acting up, so I went through my spam just now to try to find some pertinent emails about board games, et cetera (very important, you know) and I nearly died laughing.

clicking for the fearless
I deleted the less hilarious ones-- only the best for my readers, after all-- and now you have it. A showdown between Obama and McCane (yes, McCane), zipper-tearing pills, donuts baking away, glorious peckers, and megadrillers.

It's not even sexual innuendos at this point, its just random stuff being made up.




Tomorrow I'll post something less... explicit.

recipes for the truly lazy

I'm a big fan of lazy meals. For one, they disguise my mediocre cooking skills, and two, the best lazy meal recipes are AH-MAY-ZING. Mind-blowing taste, pleasing texture, little time required, simple ingredients-- good deal all around, people.

So. I present to you two fabulous recipes that I've used over the past two days, which can hopefully supply you with plenty of simple meal mileage. Ready?






Tomato Sauce with Onion and Butter
from Smitten Kitchen

Really, if there's one blog you should read, its this one (well, two blogs. I'm first on your list, right?) Smitten Kitchen is a playful perspective on cooking and baking, with fabulous photos to boot. Plus, the recipes are always tweaked, which is exactly how recipes should be. All photos for this post are sourced from Smitten Kitchen, just FYI-- I don't know how to photograph food like that!


This simple sauce recipe has only three ingredients. I've already listed them in the title, and no joke, this is one of the best sauces I've had in a long time. Light, sweet, fresh, with a little tang on the side-- it went beautifully on plain pasta, and I'm sure you could easily spice it up with some ground beef if you wanted something more filling.

Serves 4 as a main course; makes enough sauce to lightly coat most of a pound of spaghetti

28 ounces (800 grams) whole peeled tomatoes from a can (San Marzano, if you can find them)
5 tablespoons (70 grams) unsalted butter
1 medium-sized yellow onion, peeled and halved
Salt to taste

Put the tomatoes, onion and butter in a heavy saucepan (it fit just right in a 3-quart) over medium heat. Bring the sauce to a simmer then lower the heat to keep the sauce at a slow, steady simmer for about 45 minutes, or until droplets of fat float free of the tomatoes. Stir occasionally, crushing the tomatoes against the side of the pot with a wooden spoon. Remove from heat, discard the onion, add salt to taste (you might find, as I did, that your tomatoes came salted and that you didn’t need to add more) and keep warm while you prepare your pasta.

Serve with spaghetti, with or without grated parmesan cheese to pass.

The recipe is a direct quote from the blog, and I can't emphasize to you how easy this is. Don't let the long simmering time get to you: Mike and I watched Garden State while it bubbled away in the wok (a great saucepan replacement), and I only got up occasionally to stir. Oh, and be warned-- it starts out very liquidy, but don't worry! By the end, you'll have a lovely sawce texture, just give it time.

Mmm... sawce.


(Mike's favorite part is squishing the peeled tomatoes against the side of the pan-- their guts gush out in sweet tomato-ey flavors!)








Blueberry Crumb Bars

also from Smitten Kitchen


I had to officially get permission in order to include Mike's name in this post, so I'm going to max it out while I can. One of his favorite fruits is blueberries, although he'll never admit it-- he just eats it in mass quantities and guzzles blueberry-flavored things like mad. So I baked up this blueberry crumble, which comes out fantastic warm or cool: eating it right out of the pan makes it like a fruit cobbler, and fridging it for a bit makes a great bar cookie.

Yield: I cut these into 36 smallish rectangles

1 cup white sugar
1 teaspoon baking powder
3 cups all-purpose flour
1 cup cold unsalted butter (2 sticks or 8 ounces)
1 egg
1/4 teaspoon salt
Zest and juice of one lemon
4 cups fresh blueberries
1/2 cup white sugar
4 teaspoons cornstarch

1. Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease a 9×13 inch pan.

2. In a medium bowl, stir together 1 cup sugar, 3 cups flour, and baking powder. Mix in salt and lemon zest. Use a fork or pastry cutter to blend in the butter and egg. Dough will be crumbly. Pat half of dough into the prepared pan.

3. In another bowl, stir together the sugar, cornstarch and lemon juice. Gently mix in the blueberries. Sprinkle the blueberry mixture evenly over the crust. Crumble remaining dough over the berry layer.

4. Bake in preheated oven for 45 minutes, or until top is slightly brown. (This took an extra 10 to 15 minutes in my oven.) Cool completely before cutting into squares.





What's even better about this recipe is that 1) you can use frozen blueberries and 2) you can, in fact, use almost any berry for this. Don't thaw the blueberries or berry mix, just measure it out and toss it in with the lemon and sugar-- blueberries freeze wonderfully, and if you thaw them they'll just make the whole thing runny. I swapped out for half fresh, half frozen-- and really, no one protested. (If anything, Mal complained that Mike ended up with most of it! We sadly only have 4 bars left...)







Happy baking and cooking, everyone. If you have any more simple recipes for me, please do let me know-- I don't know how much longer I can subsist on stir-fry. College has really been a one-dish extravaganza, when it comes to my own culinary skills, alas.

real women have nothing on this one

This is Nong Poy.


Nong Poy is a Thai actress and model.

She won the Miss Tiffany's Beauty Contest at age 19.

She has also starred in several music videos.

And by the way, Nong Poy is actually a man.

No, you read that one right. He/she is a transgender individual, who went under sexual reassignment at age 17.


Mal's response: "WHAT?! This world needs Jesus."

I'm more saddened by the fact that his womanly charms are about 10x more womanly than all the girls I know. Combined.

old dog, new skills (forget the tricks)

In light of my attempts to make better choices this year (yes, I'm still yapping about it), I've compiled a quick list of things that I've found helpful to jumpstart my resolutions and also to maybe help kick off a few for you! So whether you're trying to gain some clarity this year or just finally learn to cook, hopefully this list can help you achieve your goals, whatever they might be. Enjoy!







FOR THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

that about sums it up, i think. via ffffound!
(but if you need more help, check the links below)
  • A long but thorough list of 11 Ways to Gain Clarity.
  • If you want to pare down your life a bit, here are 6 Questions That Can Help You Make 2010 a Simpler and Lighter Year (an awfully long title for this topic).
  • Pat yourself on the back for Getting Through It this year-- awesome! A great reminder of what's important, whether or not 2009 was kind to you.
  • One of my favorites: Checking In With Your Inside People is really so, so, so important to finding happiness, I think. In Christian terms, I suppose your inside person would be your soul, if the Buddhist references bother you.
  • Oh, and of course! Gala Darling wrote up an article titled Being Happy (ta-duh!), which I found to be incredibly helpful, informative, and amusing. She also recorded it as a podcast if you need a pick-me-up during your workday or workout.




FOR SOME MUCH NEEDED ORGANIZATION
  • If you're itching for a new and creative way to get organized for the upcoming year, I suggest the Muji Chronotebook Non-Linear Day Planner. Your plans are displayed on an axis, like a clock-- very interesting and potentially life-changing, if it helps you visualize your time better!



  • My personal favorite, however, and the one I am intent on getting (even though we're already halfway through January!) is the Moleskine Color A Month Daily Planner Box Set. The candy-colors, the clean design, the perfectly lined pages-- sorry, am I drooling? This is a great way to keep your purse light too!



  • Actually, if you just want to get organized at all, Gala Darling's Getting Organized for 2010 is a great article that consolidates planners, calendars, desk sorting, job hunting, health, diets, and achievements, all in one heap! (Really, if only I could blog like her...)
  • A great place to start organizing things is your workspace-- wherever it is that you need to be the most productive. Unclutterer has a great interview about Creating a Minimalist Workspace.
  • In fact, if you're looking to streamline even your work habits, let alone your workspace, check out the rest of Unclutterer's posts on Productivity. (Try to look at this... when you're not at work.)





FOR SHEER VANITY
(even if you look good already, gosh.)

  • Miss Amelia Arsenic from Destroyx has a great post on Basic Makeup Q&A: Foundation-- her makeup skills are flawless and intimidatingly artistic, but have no fear! She lays it down nice and easy in this article.


  • If you're sick of chapped winter skin, Michelle Phan posted a quick and simple recipe for a Sugar Olive Oil Scrub-- only three ingredients needed!
  • Nothing helps trigger a better wardrobe than fashion inspiration, and my personal favorite is by Le Blog the Betty, whose daily outfits are relatively wearable, fairly affordable, and amazingly attractive. I want her closet.










FOR NEW SMARTS AND NEW SKILLS
  • Use It Or Lose It: a great guide for more consistent blogging this year (nudge nudge, Jeannie, nudge nudge.)
  • Craftzine has a beautifully simple post on Kitchen 101: Cutting. The author writes, "Many around the world have resolved to start cooking more in 2010. I'm a firm believer that anyone can follow a simple recipe once educated on some basic terms. If you don't know what chop, cube, dice, julienne, mince, or slice mean, it can be hard to prepare a recipe. Someone might brand themselves to be a "horrible cook," when really they just need to understand a few terms. Here are some of the most common cutting terms spelled out verbally and visually."


  • Or if you're looking to sharpen your brain instead of your knives, how about trying to read one book a week for a year? Inaki Escudero tried it out last year, and he talks about it in this interview.
  • Too much to chew? Then at least check out this list of the most anticipated books coming up in The Great 2010 Book Review.
  • If you'd rather fold paper, then this Origami Club Website might be your thing-- it features simple and cute origami tutorials that are even animated for your folding ease!











Please note that I have not put down a single link to help you with any diet or exercise resolutions. I don't think I've found anything to remotely motivate me into physical movement (short of America's Next Top Model, and we all know how that one turned out).

Good luck with your resolutions-- if you have any helpful links that you find interesting, send them over! Have a lovely weekend, peoples.

to 2010 resolutions, part II

[You can read Part I of the post here-- the Accutane horror story that spurred my new resolutions for this year.]

So in my last post, I put down the most vague resolution possible: my resolution for the 2010 is to make better choices. I'm not condemning people who take Accutane in any way, but for me personally, I know that the better choice is to try other things, as much as it breaks my heart and my bank not to be able to take this "miracle drug". But what inspired me to start making these better choices was, in fact, the choices that I have witnessed other people making around me-- and I wanted to share them with you, to inspire you into better and wiser choices this year too.

Where do I even begin? I've been so inspired by...

...fashionistas who jump on job offers on the other side of the world while still pursuing their dreams of writing, fashion and baking (yes, all three!).

...certain awkward artists who aren't afraid to have immensely vulnerable heart-to-heart phone calls.

...pastors who live with abandon and passion, even when it means leaving everything they know for Christ.

...bakers who pursue their dreams, traveling all over the world to get as much experience as they can.

...roommates who care enough to send emails, even at 4 am.

...students who switch majors halfway through college because they discover their passion for saving people, and aren't afraid to work their butts off for humanity.

...breakdancers who extend their trust to share with people.

...filmmakers who relentlessly pursue their goals, to the point where they can get interviews with Pixar.

...classmates who take time out of their schedules to give a reassuring online hug via email or IM.

...painters who generously donate paintings and works of art to friends to show how much they care, even though each painting takes hours of time, blood, and sweat to do.

...and so many, so many, so many more.


For each individual, the "better choice" can be different. For each individual, the "better choice" doesn't always mean the hardest choice, although more often than not it is. For each individual, the "better choice" is the choice that they know is the one that resonates with their core, with who they are and what they believe in.

And really, don't you want to live your life like that too?

So here's to 2010-- to a better year than the last, to making better choices than before, to living in way that works for you in the long term spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally.


(I didn't draw this, by the way, but a certain bold filmmaker did-- he makes a new card every year, and said I could put it up here!)

Here's to a fantastic 2010, everyone!

to 2010

[The pictures are taking hours to load, so I'm going to hold off on Hawaii for a bit and talk about something that has been on my mind recently, especially since we just started off a new year a little over a week ago.]


WAIT, IS THERE HOPE?!
Yesterday, I went to see a dermatologist for the second time in my life-- the first one was not helpful at all, but I decided for once and for all that enough was enough. He apparently agreed with me: he took a single look at my skin and declared that we needed to "pursue the most intensive treatment possible." I was so overjoyed I nearly cried in his office; Accutane is known to actually cure acne entirely, and I was sick of struggling with something as simple as my skin for the past 7, 8 years. New year, new skin-- it was a long-awaited dream, and I eagerly signed papers after papers in order to get on the program as soon as possible.

Before I left the office, the doctor handed me a booklet filled with information about contraceptives, because the biggest risk of taking Accutane is birth defects in unborn babies. Other than that, however, the doctor assured me that I would have no side effects other than dry skin and lips, and maybe a little extra anxiety on the side.




HOPES DASHED MISERABLY

Coming home with all this information, and the thrill of actually getting rid of acne forever, I eagerly explained everything to my parents-- only to have both of them balk at the idea. My mom made the point that ingesting anything which required such a huge slew of papers, contracts, and blood tests can't possibly be good for your body in the long run, and it startled me. So I went online and did some research, and discovered some horrifying news.

It turns out that Accutane was actually originally developed as a form of chemotherapy medication used for brain cancer, and even now its still used for those purposes, in addition to curing acne. Most patients have a pretty good reaction to it, enough for it to stay on the market, but there remains a whole slew of lawsuits against it because of the ridiculous side effects a small minority receives after taking the drug.

Small minority-- chances are I'll fall in the majority, right? And besides, what kind of side effects could possibly be that bad?

According to a multitude of testimonials on acne.org (this is one among many sites that are filled with unhappy users of Accutane, even Wikipedia lists these effects), they encounter:

  • permanent hair loss, permanent thin skin
  • rosacea, conjunctivitus
  • acne return/increase
  • back pain, joint pain, muscle pain
  • impaired night vision, cataracts, photosensitivity
  • pancreatitus, hepatitus
  • fatigue, reduced libido
  • inflammatory bowel, bone disease, degenerative discs
  • extreme depression, psychosis
These are side effects that can occur during the treatment, or even show up/persist long after the treatment has stopped-- and even the less terrifying ones on there like "thin skin" and "photosensitivity" are in reality, horrendous (imagine not being able to stand in normal sunlight because your skin or eyes are constantly burning).






WHY WHY WHY

I cried for hours after I read that. I was simultaneously terrified and confused-- how could something that produces such long-term, health-impacting, and potentially fatal side effects be sold by doctors, and worse, that my doctor hadn't mentioned ANYTHING about these symptoms? There was no way of finding out whether or not I would get these side effects unless I actually took the drug, and now I was too scared to even do that.

Worse, my mother made the logical leap that drugs don't just leave your body without a trace-- especially not drugs like Accutane, which is clinically proven to cause major birth defects, let alone the horror stories that I had read. It left room for potentially hurting my kids if I ever decided to have them in the future, and while that was far away, I still didn't feel comfortable with the idea.





THE PERPETUALLY DANGLING CARROT
But clear skin-- oh, to have clear skin! To be able to put aside all the nonsensical treatments and creams and pills and diets and gels and lotions and just to have NORMAL, HEALTHY SKIN. I was absolutely torn. It might seem silly to people who don't have acne, but people who have lived through it understand me. It is more than a phase. It is more than "just hormones" at this point. It has become a major preoccupation, a disturbance, a distraction, a burden, something that I feel ashamed to even bring up with my parents because I don't want to seem vain or selfish. I have struggled with this for almost a decade now, and I am so tired of it being dismissed as "wait a little and it'll go away." I'm even more tired of everyone I know touting a new solution-- "My friend/ aunt/ family/ doctor/ dermatologist/ sister/ last roommate/ mother/ distant-third cousin-I-don't-actually-contact uses this FILL IN THE BLANK and it worked miracles!"

I am tired of waiting for miracles.

I just want to be healthy.





RESOLUTIONS FOR 2010

The reason why I find this struggle to be so relevant for a first post in the year 2010 is because I found my resolution yesterday:

My resolution for the year 2010 is to make the better choice.

It sounds stupid and vague, but let me explain-- we are people who are not prone to making better choices. In fact, if you look into the average person's life, I believe that the majority of us are quite inclined to make the worse choice in any given life situation. We're trained to be experts at comparing gadget prices between Walmart and Best Buy, but we often lack the stamina, the bravery, the boldness to step out and make the life choices that are, in the long run, better for us. And yet we often stand at the precipice of things, at the crossroads, and wonder: "What is the right choice here?"

But don't we already know? Chris tells me this all the time, whenever I ask him, "What does God want in my life?" His answer is invariably: "YOU ALREADY KNOW." And yes, yes, when I am dead honest with myself, I know the answer-- I just hate it, I fight it, I can't even pick a salad over a Big Mac for lunch and you want me to make the "choice" that I know is right? Great.

I know the better choice in regards to Accutane. I know that having clear skin is not worth potentially risking other people, let alone my own health in the long run. I know that it might not give me peace of mind now, but in 10 years, having acne probably won't matter as much as having a child who struggles their whole life with much more than a skin disease. I know that I am no longer entirely master to my own body-- I have never been-- because my body is made for more than myself. My parents, my friends, my future husband, my future children, even God himself-- I have already promised myself to them, and they deserve me in the best of health that I can possibly try to give.

I hate my skin now, but I would hate myself so much more if I didn't live for the better choice.





Ok, I'm exhausted. Part II of this tomorrow-- where I tell you the more hopeful side to this resolution!

annnnnd we're back!

Hawaii was... well, I'll show you when I get the pictures up, but I feel thoroughly sun-soaked to the bones, which is exactly how every vacation in the tropics should make you feel, especially since its so cold back home. I have to work through over a thousand posts accumulated over the past 9 days in my blog reader, which is a certain recipe for a migraine and potentially awesome blogging. Proof:


Sigh. One thousand and seventy.

Back to a regular posting schedule soon!